Challenging Prayer

How often do you pray? How rich is your prayer life? Are you like me and often find yourself praying the same general prayer daily? 

Deep, rich prayer has long been a struggle for me, even with intentional efforts to slow down and expand my prayers beyond surface level. Sure, I pray through the list and pray for our church, leaders, partners, our country, my family, but it more often than not becomes routine instead of a genuine conversation with my Heavenly Father, even when striving hard to do so.

I don’t think this is due to a lack of faith or doubt. I have witnessed God answer countless prayers. I think it is usually more due to busyness, routine, pride, self-reliance, and I have noticed my conversations with people sometimes have the same surface-level tendencies. We talk about the same things and answer the same questions each time.

It is a bit silly (scary?) how easily pride and self-reliance slip back into my life. 

Gratefully, God is gracious to gently remind me that I don’t, in fact, “got this on my own.”

As I have continued through the Precepts Bible Study on Romans 12, it recommended the always helpful idea of praying Scripture back to God. Specifically, Romans 12:9-21:

9 Let love be genuine. Abhor what is evil; hold fast to what is good. 10 Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor. 11 Do not be slothful in zeal, be fervent in spirit, serve the Lord. 12 Rejoice in hope, be patient in tribulation, be constant in prayer. 13 Contribute to the needs of the saints and seek to show hospitality.

14 Bless those who persecute you; bless and do not curse them. 15 Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. 16 Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly.2 Never be wise in your own sight. 17 Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. 18 If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all. 19 Beloved, never avenge yourselves, but leave it3 to the wrath of God, for it is written, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay, says the Lord.” 20 To the contrary, “if your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him something to drink; for by so doing you will heap burning coals on his head.” 21 Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good (ESV).

As I consider and pray through this list, I realize how terrifyingly short I fall. Self-reliant? On what? Myself? The irony is that I'm only self-reliant at focusing on myself - that's the limit of my self-reliance. Maybe, it’s helpful if you ask yourself these same questions along with me? 

Do I:

  • Genuinely love others?

  • Truly abhor what is evil and hold fast to what is good?

  • Love one another with brotherly affection?

  • Outdo one another in showing honor?

  • Avoid slothfulness and serve the Lord fervently?

  • Rejoice in hope, exercise patience in tribulation?

  • Pray constantly? 

  • Contribute to the needs of others and show hospitality? 

Then, the list gets tougher! Do I:

  • Bless those who persecute me and not curse them?

  • Live in harmony with one another? 

  • Avoid haughtiness and associate with the lowly?

  • Live humbly and avoid being wise in my own sight? 

  • Don’t react and repay evil for evil but do the honorable thing for all to see?

  • Live peaceably with everyone? 

  • Never want retribution but fully rely on God for vengeance?

  • Feed and provide drinks to my enemy? 

  • Resist temptation and evil and overcome it with good?

There are very few times when I long to go back to my school days, but I wouldn’t mind getting graded on a curve for these. I score tragically low on this list. 

Here was the eye-opening truth to me this morning. I cannot score higher. At least, not on my own. I am an ordinary guy, not a Super Saint. And, that is the point. I am a broken and sinful person. 

The list is self-defeating. I cannot try harder, be a ‘better’ or ‘good’ person and satisfy the list and that’s the point. 

If I could focus all my effort and achieve some of these things, I would fail anyway. Why? Because succeeding by my own effort would make me wise in my own sight. I'd become prideful, glory in myself, pray less, and fail at other items on the list. 

Thank God he doesn’t require me to do this of my own efforts and ability. There is literally no possible way for me to achieve a perfect score. But, God sent Jesus to take my horrifically low score on this, and the rest of my sinful life, and through his death, burial, resurrection, ascension, defeating Satan, sin and death, he  gives me His perfect score! 

Then, as Paul started in Romans 12, through the transformation of my mind (12:2), through dependence on God, prayer, the power of the Holy Spirit, I can humbly live this reality for the glory of God.  

Thad Cardine has a great section in this post (he also has a helpful framework on how to execute scripture focused prayer - PDF download):

This lesson in the Precepts study ends with, “This will be an assignment blessed of God if you will take the time to do it. Devote yourself to prayer.”


Charisma

When I think of charisma, James Dean pops into my head. He exudes a smooth, polished, confident, demeanor. Or, if you just said who!? Maybe, Gerard Butler or The Rock, especially The Rock’s character from Jumanji, are a better example. 

Throughout my life, I have longed to have charisma. I wanted to be the guy that walked in the room and have everyone fall silent wondering what eloquence and grace would roll off my tongue. I mean, I could be the next James Bond, right? Unfortunately, I cannot even come close to faking Sean Connery’s accent, and yes, let’s be real with each other. He was by far the best James Bond. 

Imagine my shock and surprise when studying Romans 12 this morning, when Paul says I say to everyone among you not to think of himself more highly than he ought to think, but to think with sober judgment, each according to the measure of faith I that God has assigned (Romans 12:3 ESV.) 

So much for my James Bond dreams, thanks Paul! 

Paul continues in Romans 12:4-8 to talk about spiritual gifts. It was actually enlightening to read through the first 8 verses, then go back and study them in sections, then put it all back together. 

A brief summary outline of 1-8, reveals:

  • v1 Paul appealing to the Gentile believers to present their bodies to God as a sacrifice, holy and acceptable;

  • v2 Don’t be conformed to the world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind

    • by testing you may discern the will of God, what is good, and acceptable, and perfect

  • v3 mentioned above don’t think to highly of yourself, but be realistic and consider the measure of faith God has assigned you

  • v4-5 we are one body with many members all with a different function; we are all individually members of one another

  • v6 with different spiritual gifts according to the grace given us

  • v6-8 use the gift you are given to the fullest extent 

Wait Paul, so you are saying there’s a chance! Did you see it? I didn’t either, at first, until the Precepts study (which I again highly recommend) led me to look up the Greek word for “gift.”

The word:

χάρισμα (charisma), n. neut. something graciously given; a gift. Something that is freely given on account of favor and kindness.

Charisma! Paul is saying that God has blessed me with charisma! Ok, so maybe not the James Dean, suave, cool, magnetic kind of charisma, but charisma nonetheless. And, honestly, I’m good with that. My wife may disagree, but hey, there wasn’t much false advertisement in that deal, I’m pretty sure she knew what she was getting, sorry babe. 

Now that I am returning to reality, the thing I am really excited about is being ordinary. I have encountered this word a lot over the last year. So much so that it finally caught my attention and I am focusing on it as my ‘word of the year’ for 2026. 

One of my absolute favorite sections of Scripture has long been Hebrews 11:32–34:

“And what more shall I say? For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets—who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight” (ESV).

I love how this describes a bunch of ordinary guys whom God uses for extraordinary things. They were normal, everyday dudes other than the fact that they were extraordinarily faithful. I may do a study and write about them individually, that sounds fun, we’ll see. But, the main thing I want to focus on for now is that they were ordinary, though immensely faithful, and God blessed them with charisma or spiritual gifts they used to do the will of God. 

This gives me great hope. Prayerfully, it does you, as well. I have often had thoughts throughout my life of:

  • I have screwed up too much;

  • I don’t have any special skills;

  • I’m not a super saint;

  • I don’t do most things well;

  • and others, with which, I’m sure you can relate.

How could God possibly use a guy like me, with a history like mine, that has no formal theological training, that…

He can because he is God. Because he has demonstrated throughout history, more often than not, that ordinary, not perfect men, are who he uses. There are countless stories throughout the Bible of God using improbable men in impossible situations for His glory. 

For years, I have felt God tell me to write. Like Moses, I counter with excuses and arguments: I’m not a good writer, God! I’m not a scholar, you know that! I’m not eloquent. I’m not…

God says, you are correct, sir! You are none of those things. But, you can be faithful. And, faithfulness is all I require. 

This is my ordinary faithfulness. I pray that God would use it to encourage other men, as well to take steps of their own ordinary faithfulness for His glory. 

Incidentally, I completed a spiritual gifts assessment a few years ago and my top two gifts were teaching and encouragement which seem to fit with this perceived call. 

I have a professional mentor who challenged me over the last few months to identify what Simon Sinek would call my “Why.” Or, in Japanese culture, ikigai (/ˈikiˌɡaɪ/) as "a motivating force; something or someone that gives a person a sense of purpose or a reason for living". More generally, it may refer to something that brings pleasure or fulfillment. In Christianity, it might be thought of as a transcendent cause. The idea is to identify that thing in your life that is bigger than yourself that drives you.

Historically, I have completed exercises to identify my values, vision, and purpose and had gotten somewhat close to this, but never nailed it down specifically. Through this challenge, I did. 

My “why” or ikigai is to Awaken potential in others that they can't see themselves. The idea isn’t in some self-help-motivational-speaker kind of way, but to help men find that thing. The thing burning inside of them. The charisma. The thought energizes me like crazy: to help men find their gift and to use it to the full for God’s glory. 

Faith Starts in the Heart

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Where does your faith come from? 

I'd like to briefly explore faith with you as I work through some of my reading and studying this morning. This isn't intended to be an exhaustive evaluation or study on faith, but hopefully, a helpful stimulus for you to think through your own faith. 

I am working through the Precepts study of Matthew chapters 14 and 15 (side note: if you have not done a Precept (https://www.precept.org) study, I highly recommend them, I am thoroughly enjoying them.)

My study this morning was on Matthew 15:10-20 (All Scripture references are ESV.):

And he called the people to him and said to them, “Hear and understand: it is not what goes into the mouth that defiles a person, but what comes out of the mouth; this defiles a person.” Then the disciples came and said to him, “Do you know that the Pharisees were offended when they heard this saying?” He answered, “Every plant that my heavenly Father has not planted will be rooted up. Let them alone; they are blind guides. And if the blind lead the blind, both will fall into a pit.” But Peter said to him, “Explain the parable to us.” And he said, “Are you also still without understanding? Do you not see that whatever goes into the mouth passes into the stomach and is expelled? But what comes out of the mouth proceeds from the heart, and this defiles a person. For out of the heart come evil thoughts, murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false witness, slander. These are what defile a person. But to eat with unwashed hands does not defile anyone.” (ESV)

A few things stood out to me, especially when expanding to a bit larger section of Matthew chapters 14 and 15:

  • The Pharisees were offended that the disciples didn't follow the tradition of washing their hands before they ate.
  • Jesus rebukes the Pharisees telling them it is not what goes into their mouth that defiles them. What they put in their mouth passes through the body and is excreted. It is what comes out of the mouth that defiles them, because that comes out of the heart. 
  • The Pharisees held to the tradition of men, teaching the commandments of men as doctrine, over the Word of God.

It made me think, along with some other reading and questions that I came across, maybe it is helpful to start with figuring out what my definition of faith is. 

The Precept study provided a nudge to think about this by asking the question, "How would you describe faith or explain it to another person?"

What Faith Isn't

Maybe it is helpful to explore what faith isn't first? Here is a short consideration of what faith is not.

We seemingly don't have to have much faith in things we can determine with our senses: 

  • If I can see something, it is typically real - AI arguments aside, that is a whole other discussion. 
  • If I can smell something, it is almost always real (my sons demonstrate this well)
  • If I can hear something, again, AI aside, it is likely real
  • If I can touch something, it is almost certainly real
  • If I can taste it, oh, this is a bit of a tough one with processed food, I guess at least, we can say it exists

Faith isn't believing in something that is immediately able to be experienced. I don't need strong faith to believe if the ladder falls over while I am putting up Christmas lights I am rapidly going to approach the ground. Yes, I am afraid of heights. Or, as it is more comically said, I'm not afraid of heights, I'm afraid of the impact. 

Faith isn't compliance. I don't have to have faith to comply with the law, though I do have to be obedient to do so. 

Faith isn't just a feeling. I feel lots of things, that doesn't necessarily mean I believe them or place trust in them. 

A couple of days ago in my study, I was working through Matthew 14:22-33, a passage I'm sure you are familiar with. It is where Jesus walks on water to the disciples who were in a boat in the middle of a storm. Peter, wanting to confirm it is Jesus, tells him if it is you Jesus, command me to get out an walk on the water. Jesus does. For a moment, when Peter's eyes are locked on Jesus, he does indeed walk on the water. However, when his focus shifts to the storm blown waves, he begins sinking. Jesus says in v31b, "O you of little faith, why did you doubt?"

If faith is not these things, what is faith?

What Faith Is

When I encountered the question mentioned above, "how would you describe faith or explain it to another person," I had an immediate, but shallow response. About three seconds later, I was like oh, uhh, that is going to take some effort and maybe, I don't really know? 

I mean, I know. Don't you? This is one of those things that we "intuitively" know but struggle to explain why. Or, maybe that is just me. 

Even before coming to know Jesus personally, I had faith that God existed for as long as I can remember. I also, mistakenly, remember wanting him not to interfere with the happiness I was looking for in life. Well, that was a miss. But again, a different story for a different time. The point is I just sort of *knew* that God is God. 

Scripture presents a multifaceted understanding of faith that goes far beyond mere intellectual assent. Faith fundamentally “comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ” (Rom 10:17), suggesting it is a dynamic, responsive relationship rather than a static concept. It is defined as “the assurance of things hoped for, the conviction of things not seen,” and critically, “without faith it is impossible to please God” (Heb 10:38–11:40).

The Logos Bible App had a helpful paragraph: 

> Importantly, faith is not passive—it requires active demonstration. James provocatively argues that “faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead” and challenges believers to “show me your faith by your works.” He bluntly states that “faith apart from works is useless” (James 2:14–26). Yet simultaneously, faith is a gift—“by grace you have been saved through faith... not a result of works, so that no one may boast” (Eph. 2:8–9). Ultimately, faith is lived “in the Son of God,” with Jesus himself being the “founder and perfecter of our faith” (Gal 2:20); (Heb. 12:2). “Faith is not about perfect performance, but persistent trust.”

According to this, faith is, at least, includes this:

  • Active
  • A gift
  • Jesus is the founder *and* perfecter of it
  • It is not about performance but trust

Similarly, my pastor often says, it is not about the size of your faith, but the object of it, which echos Matthew 17:20: He said to them, “Because of your little faith. For truly, I say to you, if you have faith like a grain of mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move, and nothing will be impossible for you.”

There are many other verses that help us understand, a few: 

One of my favorite sections of Scripture is Hebrews 11:30-35 when discussing the heroes of faith:

30 By faith the walls of Jericho fell down after they had been encircled for seven days. 31 By faith Rahab the prostitute did not perish with those who were disobedient, because she had given a friendly welcome to the spies.

32 And what more shall I say? For time would fail me to tell of Gideon, Barak, Samson, Jephthah, of David and Samuel and the prophets—33 who through faith conquered kingdoms, enforced justice, obtained promises, stopped the mouths of lions, 34 quenched the power of fire, escaped the edge of the sword, were made strong out of weakness, became mighty in war, put foreign armies to flight. 35 Women received back their dead by resurrection. Some were tortured, refusing to accept release, so that they might rise again to a better life.

The passage above is so encouraging to me because it tells so many stories of ordinary men who through faith were brought through so much adversity. 

From the BetterMornings Devo, by BetterMan (these are always great, but the December 1st devotion was timely for me):

Puritan William Gurnall captured this tension perfectly: "God often brings His people into such a condition that they can see no deliverance but His."

If it made sense, you'd trust the plan. Because it doesn't, you're forced to trust God. Often the very moments that feel the most unreasonable are the exact moments where God is building the most unshakable faith.

These quotes were very helpful for me to better understand how to communicate what I intuitively *knew* about faith. 

Ok great, now what? We have seen what faith isn't and what faith is, but where, or in whom, does our faith belong? 

Where does your faith come from?

There are, obviously, many options available to us. Marketing departments work very hard to remind us that buying that next thing will satisfy - no offense to my friends in Marketing. You do great work, often too good of work. I have seen what happens when I try to live out life on my own terms, chasing the worldly things I thought would bring happiness. (Hint: that never ends well.) I have followed my feelings with a similar result. 

It took awhile, but I finally came to discover that faith that led to joy is only found in Jesus, the Author and Perfecter of my faith. Jesus captured my heart and continues to transform my heart. In Ezekiel 36:26, God promises, "And I will give you a new heart, and a new spirit I will put within you. And I will remove the heart of stone from your flesh and give you a heart of flesh." Now, my faith rightly comes from my heart. 

YouTube Music notified me of a new song while writing this, "Ain't Got Enough Faith" by Conner Smith, which I think sums up my journey well:

*When it comes to thinking someone’s up there looking down
Well buddy, I’ve got to
‘Cause I ain’t got enough faith not to*

As I continue in the Precept study, it then asked the harder question. 

It is a question that invites introspection and examination; a couple of things I regularly find difficult. I would like to extend that invitation to you. You're welcome. Take a few moments. Even just a couple. Find a silent space without distractions or interruptions and ask yourself.

Is your Christian walk more governed by a traditional code of dos and don'ts or by the clear commandments and teachings of the Word of God? Don't answer this off the cuff—think it through.

As you consider that question, ask God. Regardless of where you are in your faith journey, God is listening and cares. He invites us to seek the truth and is faithful to answer. 

Manhood Journey, another valuable resource I would recommend, invites us to take a couple more minutes and pray through Colossians as we engage in our daily routines:

Colossians 2:6-7:

Therefore, as you received Christ Jesus the Lord, so walk in him, rooted and built up in him and established in the faith, just as you were taught, abounding in thanksgiving.

Colossians 2:6-7 calls us to walk in Christ, rooted and built up in Him, and abounding in thanksgiving. This week, connect a simple prayer to something "ordinary"-your morning coffee, commute, or dog walk. Pray something like: "Jesus, I'm walking with You."

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